This momma is officially 22!! I would quote the usual appropriate Taylor Swift lyrics, but I’m not a fan…sorry T-Swift fans! Plus, I just reached the third trimester and I feel like that’s a pretty big milestone as well. I thought that I’d do a Q&A type of post about motherhood and parenting young to mark both milestones! On Instagram, I asked my followers what their questions were in regards to motherhood and becoming a parent at a young age, and here are some of the top questions along with my answers:
How old were you when you had your kids?
I was 20 when I had Oliver, and I will be 22 when I have our baby girl. 🙂
What is something you wish you had done before you’d become a mom?
I could say the cliche thing like “I wish I had traveled more” which I do, but above all, I wish we had been a little more financially stable. Chase and I didn’t have a crazy amount of debt when we got married (he had a car and a small student loan), and I would consider us much better off than some couples where debt is concerned. But if we had our way, we would have liked to at least have had one of those two loans paid off, but it wasn’t to be and while money may still be tight, we have still been able to chip away at our debt and save up to fully pay off medical bills once baby is born. Thanks Dave Ramsey (seriously, check him out for all things related to finances and money)! Plus, we can travel with the kids still and even more when they’re older and we are more financially stable.
How do you deal with the mentality of feeling like you’ve “missed out” on other parts of life due to having kids?
Oh goodness, where to start?! I definitely thought about this in the middle of the night when I couldn’t sleep, going over my thoughts and feelings. In regards to this, I feel like every person is different. Personally, I rarely feel like I’m missing out, but that may be because I have friends that are in the same season of life as I am and we can all relate. We also make sure that we don’t let having a toddler and a baby on the way get in the way of our dreams and adventures, we just make sure we make them apart of it. I think a big thing is simply not dwelling on the thought that you’re missing out, because down the road, when you’re still young and your kids are out of the house, I would hate to look back and feel like I missed out on my kids moments by living in a “what might have been” mindset.
What is something you love about having kids young?
I love that my kids will get to know their grandparent for hopefully a very long time, because since we are young parents they also have young grandparents. This also applies to the great-grandparents as well!
Something that is hard as a young mom?
With everything being so social media focused now, there is so much more pressure to have the perfect Instagram life. To feel like you need to always look your best and have your kids dressed in whats ‘in’. It can really suck you in and make you feel so inadequate as a mom. I’d also say that feeling lonely is something that I struggled with even when I was pregnant with Oliver. I felt that there was no one my age who was also in the same season of life that I was. But thankfully that is no longer the case!
What are some things you are looking forward to during your 22nd year of life?
Besides the usual, making new memories and having new adventures, I look forward to (of course) welcoming a new, precious baby into our family.
I hope you enjoyed my little q&a, and if you have any other questions feel free to comment below!! Have a great weekend lovely people!